People often ask me, “How do you know who you’re talking to, when spirits come to you?” Most people who ask me are pretty open to my gifts, but a few are more wary and continue with, “You might be connecting with evil.” That’s when I generally laugh because it’s really easy to tell the difference.
It’s simple to tell since there are only two basic emotions, which you’ve probably read before—either in “Hi Momma, It’s Me” or in one of my blogs. Those two basic emotions are love and fear. All other emotions stem from those two. The former comes from God and the latter from the Devil. They are mutually exclusive.
So, let’s explore love, the language of God, first. Love-based emotions are healing to our physical body, mental state, emotional body, and our soul. Each on the list are extraordinarily beneficial to us as you’ll soon see. They begin with love, itself, and then the sub-sets as well as subsequent groups fall under each of those.
Although the word love seems self-explanatory, there are a number of nuanced versions for example—empathy for others—where we feel compassion, sympathy, kindness and affection. Another is certainty—that’s positive too and means that we accept what is to come and know that somehow it will all be right in the end. When in certainty, we live in relaxation, tranquility, and faith we become more open to excitement, exhibit more inner fortitude, and operate with more self-control. Being certain is not being stubborn. Perhaps another blog on that?
More of these love-based emotions include a sense of belonging—which exists when we share togetherness, support, helpfulness, caring, connection and contributing with other people. That relationship state also promotes dependability. Belonging and feeling accepted go hand in hand and contribute to a life that’s calming and inspiring because we’re surrounded by love and security. It’s not unusual then that relief, comfort, contentment, and complete peace-of-mind follow. We become less judgmental and more cooperative. Is all of this starting to sound divine?
There are so many other derivatives of pure love so I’ll just list a few more: unshakable integrity or honor, honesty, respect, generosity, gratitude, forgiveness, peace of mind and the list goes on. Each one of these are kind and loving emotions—all stemming from love.
Finally, when we’re secure in love, it’s easy to adopt a child-like demeanor experiencing wonder and being unburdened by life. Existing in this innocent bliss makes us more grateful and opens us up to the surprises and amazement life can bring. When those feelings become magnified, we wind up capable of expressing astonishment and awe. In that state, we are truly happy—however you may describe that state as being joyful, delighted, ecstatic, or euphoric. All of those feelings are heaven, for sure. Every emotion I’ve mentioned so far stems from love and from God. There is no mistaking any of them for being anything but beneficial.
The Devil’s communication strategy is completely different and impossible to ignore. He wishes us to be weak, fearful, and easily manipulated. When I mentioned this blog to a friend of mine, she asked if I had read a new book that was published in 2020 titled Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill and Sharon Lecter. It’s a terrific book with Napoleon Hill’s thoughts and Sharon’s annotations. It took 50-years from Napoleon Hill’s death for this manuscript to see the light of day because of a series of family objections. It explains how the devil works and the tool he uses. Guess what the tool is? Fear, of course. I think Napoleon Hill (the author decades ago of Think and Grow Rich) and I have a lot in common.
Back to explaining the difference between love and far. Fear, you see, is the polar opposite of love. If you live in one—you cannot live in the other. Now, I’m not talking about a person being possessed by the Devil, I’m talking about the everyday experiences where we run into those fear-based emotions that always cause stress, worry, confusion and misery. We’re all subject to the Devil’s tools, which he tries to use on us, continually. So, to make it easier to change our lives into a more stress-free and peaceful one—we must be able to recognize what it is we’re trying to avoid. Here are the emotions that are harmful to us—a few I’m sure you’ll recognize.
Fear causes uncertainty. When people are uncertain, they become vulnerable to dread, apprehension, anxiety, doubt and end-up manufacturing more stress. In that state, we constantly worry about what’s ahead and feel uneasy about the future. Too many of us feel like this routinely. Another fear-based emotion is apathy—which means we have a lack of feeling or concern for others so we feel more disconnected. Examples are indifference, disrespect, animosity, resentment and often disgust. In severe cases this apathy results in contempt, loathing, hostility, disdain, scorn and even hatred. These extreme feelings can only occur when we truly don’t care about the welfare of another.
Anger is another fear-based emotion and is often the most common response to fear—fear that things aren’t going our way or that we’ve been wronged, cheated, or denied somehow. Frustration, competitiveness, resentment, bitterness, and aggravation can all quickly lead to anger, too, another fear-based emotion. Additional offshoots are aggression, fury, and rage. All of these emotions, when acted upon, generate more fear and sometimes result in more pain, feelings of pending doom or harm we might have to endure and even the threat of death.
Fear is so harmful as an emotion that it can drive us into shock, helplessness, disbelief, alarm, and fright. When those five fear-based emotions, just mentioned, linger a long time, or become too intense—they can easily transform to hysteria, panic and terror. I realize reading such a list of emotions is absolutely exhausting. Well, imagine living with them? Fear is a monster and the perfect tool for Satan to use.
The litany of emotions that spring from fear vary from degree to degree within each individual. Even if that emotion is barely visible to the outside world, it is felt more profoundly by the individual experiencing it. As a result, additional feelings of abandonment (perceived or real), isolation, loneliness or feeling neglected or deserted can follow. It’s easy to fall into a negative state or situational depression and those, too, are rooted in fear.
Finally, shame or grief from the realization of how we have behaved, as a result of those feelings, can also later appear. Shame, for example relates to one’s perspective of how others view us and can become evident with a lack of confidence in our beliefs, actions and choices. Thus, we can easily become jealous, embarrassed, guilty, and humiliated. Grief, the other subset, again more carefully defined, manifests in feelings of remorse, regret, despair, gloom, insecurity, and disappointment. Doubt and hopelessness often follow.
A quick sidebar on hopelessness as it relates to healing. This I know a great deal about —not because I’ve lived with it but because I’ve witnessed the affect hopelessness or ‘giving up’ can have on a person’s subconscious and how it can eventually lead to a premature death. I cover this topic very clearly in my first book, Get Well – Even When You’ve Been Told You Can’t. When we signal our subconscious that there’s no hope and absolutely nothing can be done for a condition, and that we’ve given up—the subconscious is capable of performing relative to that belief and giving us exactly what we’ve asked for. I’ve seen this happen countless times. Where health is concerned, feeling helpless or hopeless and ‘giving up’ at the core is doomsday.
So, don’t ever doubt the power of the Devil and the tools he uses—each one rooted in fear. He can ruin our lives and the lives of others simply by planting that seed. When fear exists—love cannot. That is why we were given free will and choice. In each moment of our lives, we make a choice how we react, how we perceive something, what we say or how we behave. We also choose what we allow into our consciousness and what we do not.
That’s why I laugh when someone says, “Well, how do you know you’re not communicating with something evil?” I quickly respond, “Because everything I hear brings peace, is loving and encourages harmony and forgiveness in life. There’s nothing manipulative, judgmental, or negative – ever.” Once a person knows the difference, there is no doubting the message.
So, listen closely to the words others speak to you or the words you speak to yourself. If you want the negative self-talk to disappear or the fear to go away, shift to thoughts of gratitude for the little and beautiful things in your life, find humor in the day-to-day, forgive others and yourself or just begin doing something more positive. Turn on a funny sitcom or movie, listen to music you adore or revel in the nature that surrounds you.
Being forewarned is being forearmed. The Devil might be clever, but he’s absolutely not as smart as you!