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Blonde Meditation. Living with a Blank Mind

This is not a blonde joke, In fact, I’m a blonde myself but I’m also accomplished and smart—as are many of my blonde friends. Still, the blonde analogy makes it easier for people to grasp my meaning when I discuss living with a clear mind. Having a clear mind is how I describe my ideal state and the magic behind why it’s easier for me to connect with the “other side.”

When I explain to others what I do, this is what I say. “My mind of totally blank most of the time. It’s not a blonde thing, I actually have nothing going on upstairs in terms of extraneous thought.” I continue, “When a person lives totally in the present – with a completely quiet mind, it becomes possible to hear the whispers.”

Once a person hears the whispers, that person has opened the door to getting in touch with guidance that comes to us all. Our awareness becomes more acute, colors become brighter, focus intensifies and we’re then able to appreciate all the nuances of life without the mental distractions. It’s not a meditative state, or a trance of some kind, it is just living in that very minute, not projecting into the future or drifting into the past. Such a mind keeps us free from constant worry and over-thinking everything. It is always challenging for a person to appreciate what’s right in front of them when their mind is somewhere else. This state also makes it easier to receive guidance from the Holy Spirit or those on the “other side”.

Before I share the extensive list of amazing benefits living with a clear mind can bring, let me provide three of examples of how to meditate. 1) One way is to hyper-focus on a particular object, so your mind stays riveted on just that object with no other conscious thought. That’s what is suggested on Google, but what do they know? HA! This method is unpractical for the long term—if you’re trying to apply that state throughout the day. So, I’d suggest, instead of focusing on an external object, try to focus on the center of your body (solar plexus region), directing your consciousness inward. That allows you to stay mobile and this method can easily be executed in meetings, while driving or simply while living your life.

2) Another method is chanting a single mantra over and over to achieve a clear state – of course in doing so, you hear the sound of your voice, which eliminates other thoughts but not the repetition of that chant. I’ve never liked that method but some monks and others who meditate for hours do. I believe with that method, they are actually entering a state of hypnosis through the repetitive tone they hear and perhaps this might shift their frequency a bit, it’s certainly not a practical method for everyday life. By the way, the self-hypnosis description is all my own and as not been thoroughly researched, so don’t quote me. I’ve just tried this method and that’s the only conclusion I can come up with on why it would be effective in any way. It keeps you focused and blank while chanting but I’m not sure that anyone could hold the blank mind once the chanting stops.

3) Finally, another method I like is when thoughts float into your mind, gently push them away. They’ll float in and you’ll just ignore them while they float back out of your consciousness. The key is never let your conscious mind grab on to that thought or it will hang in there and likely expand. You’ve heard the expression: what you focus on expands. It’s true and the goal is to ignore the thought and in doing so, it will just float back out. Eventually conscious or active thoughts will become tired of coming and just stay away. This one, again, this a very mobile method since anyone can push away thoughts, no matter what else you are physically doing.

I didn’t become good at any of this overnight. In fact, this practice began when I was simply attempting to mitigate the excruciating pain from rheumatoid arthritis attacks in the early 1980’s. I learned that by keeping my mind clear the pain became less intense. So, I continued the process. Avoiding pain that way taught me to live with a quiet mind, which eventually became my new way of life.

Back to the benefits of blonde or practical meditation, of which there are many: 1) You gain clarity, which eliminates stress since your mind becomes free from worry. You can’t worry if there’s nothing going on in your consciousness. 2) You become more of an observer of life and less of a victim to the emotional drama that might surround you. Living in a state of histrionics is counterproductive to living in peace. 3) Less stress and emotional angst, helps us lead a healthier life since we all know how harmful our reactions to stress may be. 4) Objectivity allows us to make decisions more efficiently; in other words, our judgement becomes more precise. 5) When we’re clear, we become open to Divine guidance. 6) Living in the moment with a clear mind makes existing with an open heart much easier to do. In that state, we become a vessel for God’s love, allowing love to flow through us onto others—unconditionally and without judgment. With that method, we love first and think second.

Buddhist and Hindu monks strive for perfect meditation to reach what they call enlightenment or a connection to the Divine. Some strive for that stillness to elevate their frequency and facilitate levitation, moving objects with one’s mind, experiencing astral travel or having out-of-body experiences. What I do is surrounded by much less mystery since I’m perfectly content simply connecting to the Divine, receiving guidance and being a vessel for God’s love whereby my frequency also increases. So, both of us realize a Divine connection—with a slightly different intent.

What’s my daily routine? Well, here’s a glimpse. I begin each day waking up slowly in bed. That’s when all sorts of thoughts flow through my mind. I don’t focus on them, or they stick, so I just let them float through. They eventually disappear and I let that happen. Once in a while, something truly inspirational pops into my head—always first thing in the morning, so I hold on to that thought long enough to grab a pen and paper to write it down. Then, my mind is once again clear. When I finally jump out of bed, most often 30-45 minutes later, I’m clear eyed and clear minded and ready for my morning ritual.

If you just said to yourself, I can’t do that, I have to get ready for the day and I have early morning meetings! The answer is, go to bed a little earlier and wake up 30-minutes earlier to allow for a slow waking up and mind clearing time.

This is the rest of my morning routine. I go to the favorite chair in my bedroom and read a passage from an inspirational book—not one I have to think about or figure out—but one that comforts me and brings me closer to God. There are a few such books: Jesus Calling, which is read by millions and millions of readers, God Calling: a devotional classic—compiled decades ago by another author and Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, among others. They are all warm and loving and help us begin our day with love-based emotions.

Then, I talk to God, out loud mostly, in gratitude for all the many blessings in my life including poverty, illness and even bad relationships since they all provide gifts. In other words, I’m grateful for my life—every bit of it. I then ask to be led to do His work and when I have a crammed day ahead, I turn that day over and let Him lead me through it. Sounds unprecise, but with a blank mind, it really isn’t.

Throughout my morning routine I’m not thinking at all, I’m just “being” while I accomplish one task after another and that habit stays with me throughout the day.

Being clear, being able to focus on others and enjoying the present moment all come with learning to keep your mind completely blank is simply divine! In other words, “It’s a blonde thing.”

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